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Carolyn Smagalski
Self Respect
Founder - Editor - Host
Mistakes. Have you made any lately? Mistakes are those
magical moments that are invisible to the choice maker. The
choice maker continues on, happy-go-lucky, until...BAM! He
comes upon the "Wall of Consequence."
The Wall of Consequence is our little "Wailing Wall," our
diary that is sometimes made up of volumes, due to our
profound skill at making mistakes. "Assert your right to make
a few mistakes. If people can't accept your imperfections,
that's their fault," said Dr. David M. Burns.
Franklin P. Jones put it succinctly when he said, "Experience
is that marvelous thing that enables you to recognize a
mistake when you make it again." We do, at times, make the
same mistake several times in our lives. This is primarily
because we are viewing the world as individual events, and not
as part of the big picture. We somehow think that we can keep
doing the same things, and the results will change. Results
do not change if we do not change our choices.
Change your frame of reference. Examine your belief systems
to determine if you make these mistakes because of a
deep-seated belief that may not, necessarily, be accurate. If
you keep making choices that do not give you the results you
want, examine your belief system. For example, you may
believe that people who have money are greedy. You don’t want
to be greedy, so you do nothing to generate more money. As a
result, you are miserable.
What would happen if you suddenly came into ten thousand
dollars from an undisclosed source? How many people would
come running to you with open palms, asking for a few hundred
dollars? “After all,” they reason, “you didn’t have it
before, so you won’t really miss it.” If you examine what
they did with their money, you may find that they are in the
habit of making bad financial choices - buying lottery tickets
daily, making unnecessary purchases, going to movies, eating
out at fast-food spots regularly. Their lives may be
unorganized, and they are aware of their mismanagement of time
and resources. So, now they want some of yours. Is this not
greed? Is this the scenario you want to continue?
In conversing with an associate the other day, he was relaying
the story that a friend of his did not understand the works of
a famous personal success guru. This personal success teacher
speaks often about being non-judgmental. However, the
associate who was relaying the story appeared arrogant and
judgmental, which was not in keeping with the material
presented by this success teacher. So who was actually
learning, and who was making the mistake?
"Wise men profit more from fools than fools from wise men; for
the wise men shun the mistakes of fools, but fools do not
imitate the successes of the wise, " said Cato the Elder from
Plutarch.
Strive to learn from the fools, and to imitate the successes
of those who have taken learning to heart.
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